LONELINESS is now viewed so seriously that a Minister for Loneliness has been suggested.

Why is loneliness so prevalent these days?

Divorce can result in us feeling alone and unloved.

Yes, being in a loveless relationship's incredibly lonely, gradually eroding confidence.

Starting again, with less financial security, after being off the singles scene awhile can lead to loneliness and apprehension.

A newly single person may be eyed warily by others, uneasy that they'll disrupt the status quo or highlight flaws in their relationships. Friendships may become divided and awkward to maintain.

Young people often prefer to be the same and fit in, with FOMO and social media adding to the pressure.

Young children sometimes feel different, not accepted or part of the gang, perhaps due to their sexuality, family pressures, health issues.

A sensitive grandparent, teacher, confidante or supportive channels of communication at home can provide valuable assurances.

Living away from home is often stressful and lonely, especially if money is tight and you're unfamiliar with your new location or social group. Student life can be difficult at first, especially if 'everyone else' seems fine. Many colleges and universities provide mentors for first year students, offering help, counsel and advice.

Re-locating can initially be tough. Be proactive and seek out local societies, volunteer, attend evening classes or your local gym. Go consistently and you'll see familiar faces. Be enthusiastic, friendly and accept reasonable invitations.

Many first-time mothers, 90 per cent, report feeling lonelier since having children.

It's tough to change a professional life for one spent immersed in daily child care.

Guilt at feeling low, bored by the lack of stimulus and restricted by financial constraints can result in feeling lonely and isolated.

Loneliness can be a confidence issue, especially if having plucked up enough courage to invite someone for coffee they decline; they don't like me, think I'm boring, etc.

Relax! There may be valid reasons. Try again, but speak to other people too. Say yes to opportunities and invitations, but don't put all your eggs in one basket!

Retirement, redundancy, bereavement and loss of health can all cause loneliness.

After previously being active and respected, you may now feel discarded, marginalised, isolated. Being widowed after many years together can mean it's tough to manage living alone.

Help may be offered with chores, shopping, meals, laundry, but companionship and conversation are often what's most missed. Enjoyable conversations are valued more than domestic help.

Susan Leigh

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