THERE are certain times in life when it's good to pause and assess what we've achieved so far, how that measures up to our original goals and where we would like our next steps to take us.

A period of reflection can inspire us to continue the motivation for a good new year.

What happened to last year's intentions and resolutions? Half-hearted or unrealistic goals can quickly lose momentum.

Similarly, relying on someone else to inspire us is good when everyone's motivated, but is tough when it's cold or one person's losing interest.

Relationships can struggle in the new year, with January being the busiest month for divorce lawyers.

Commit to improving your relationship by scheduling regular us time.

Notice how you communicate and start really listening and demonstrating genuine interest in each others' lives.

Invest in yourself. How do you feel about your life? Which things are non-negotiable at the moment, which things could you manage better; then allocate some time, money and energy for yourself.

Set goals that mean something to you, that spark your passion. Identify stepping-stones towards your goals.

Celebrate each stage and give yourself credit for each completed task, form filled out or effort made; all provide recognition of your resolve.

Enjoy detours, rather than fixating on the ultimate result. Life is often about the journey rather than the final results.

Often the process of getting from A to B is the most scenic, memorable part of the trip, so enjoy taking longer whilst enjoying the ride.

Value the failures. If you slip up, face rejection or feel somewhat out of your depth, rather than give up use those setbacks as an opportunity to learn a new skill, try a different approach or even change course a little.

Be accountable, whether it be to a business coach, tutor or another colleague, knowing that you'll have to explain your progress or lack thereof.

Even checking in on social media can help! You may receive useful guidance, a well-timed nudge or simple encouragement and belief in your abilities at a time when you're plagued with self-doubt. Don't underestimate the importance being accountable to someone.

Keeping the momentum going can mean branching out into different areas, being receptive to ways of improving the quality of your personal, professional and relationship life.

Enjoy a great new year, one that suits you well and then you'll feel good about committing to your goals.

Susan Leigh

Counsellor, hypnotherapist and relationship counsellor

Viswit lifestyletherapy.net