How important are you? Family, work, friends can often feature higher on our list than us, but in neglecting ourselves we may become fed up, resentful and unhappy.

Here are 10 tips to support your success:

* Practise positive self talk. Notice those automatic “I’m so stupid” responses that can so easily surface when stressed. Something you did may have been a mistake, but that doesn’t mean you’re stupid. Be kinder to yourself.

* Schedule time for things you enjoy doing well. During tough times remind yourself of your skills, talents and abilities. Allow time for fun, hobbies and interests and bring a positive mindset into your life.

* “Broadcast” what you’ve done; household chores, chauffeuring duties, the errands that are done automatically. Occasionally remind others that you’ve restocked the food cupboards and clean laundry; encourage appreciation.

* Smile and accept compliments and praise. Don’t shrug them off with an “it’s nothing”. Acknowledge thanks and be gracious.

* Pace yourself and recognise your early warning signs of stress. Identify what you’re able to manage each day and sometimes tackle big jobs in stages.

* Let others help. Maybe engage help with cleaning, gardening, ironing or with business tasks like PR, accounts and social media. Freeing time can be money well spent. Delegate some tasks, let your children help; encourage others to be more responsible.

* No can be positive when used well. Yes can become a negative habit if you automatically take on excessive work, social engagements or family responsibilities. Saying ‘no’ appropriately allows you to use your time well and focus on your immediate priorities.

* Nurture your relationships. Partners, families, colleagues, friends are not psychic, but will often be understanding and supportive if included in what’s going on. Let them in and they may even suggest better methods.

* Regular breaks may seem counter-intuitive, but they allow you to better manage stress and return with a fresh perspective. Look after yourself and enjoy a healthy snack, regular water, exercise. Break for an hour or so before bed.

* Accept opportunities that take you out of your comfort zone, even if it’s simply choosing a different lunch, speaking to someone new, accepting an invitation. Keep a journal and log those mini-successes to sustain you during difficult times.

Shake off old, unhelpful patterns that may have once worked for you and enjoy becoming a better version of yourself, more successful.

Susan Leigh, Altrincham counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer and media contributor